About a year ago, I made a decision that scared the bejeezus out of me and altered the trajectory of my life. I made a few rules that I decided to live by; fondly labeled: My Graffiti Rules
Let me add a bit more clarity before I share this set of rules. My last name is Graff and these are the rules I live by and graffiti by definition means “writing or drawings scribbled, scratched, or sprayed illicitly on a wall or other surface in a public place”. These rules, like graffiti is shared publicly, in all its unorganized glory in an organized kind of way. It’s expressive and purely subjective.
So, what are the rules?
- First and foremost you have to throw a big middle finger at society and the rules that society has set for us. Those particular rules include but are not limited to; how you should look, feel, dress, act… etc. (In other words don’t turn into a rude ass but try being yourself for once instead of like everyone else)
- Since I already mentioned the middle finger that leads me to the next rule; Embrace a good cuss word or 2 or 3 or 10. My favorite happens to be FUCK. It might be considered the most vulgar to some and the least favorite cuss word in general, (as a side note: if you are not a cusser and/or you don’t like cussing, then I might not be your cup of tea and you might want to move on) I happen to love this word as an expletive. Some examples are: Fuck yeah! Fuckin‘ aye! and I am so fucking excited! You get the point, right?! You will rarely hear me utter: Fuck you or Fuck off and if I do you had better listen and move away from me quickly because that is some kind of mad that is indescribable. Enough said. Fuck is my favorite cuss word of choice. Do you have one?
- Start a routine. A morning routine, an evening routine – any routine at all, just get one. I started my obsession with getting a routine after I read The Miracle Morning by Hal Enrod. I became obsessed with getting my day off to the right start. Full disclosure; I do not follow the plan in this book exactly as described but it catapulted me into the world of structure and how it truly works. The two other books that spout the benefits of a routine and are well worth the reads are The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins and High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard.
- Meditate. Often. Add it to your schedule and make it something that is non-negotiable. I can almost hear you now. As soon as you read that you said one of three things: A. “I already meditate ” (good for you!) B. “I don’t have time to meditate “, I offer you this quote by Dr. Sukhraj S. Dhillon:
“You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes everyday – unless you’re too busy; then you should sit for an hour”
and C. “I don’t know HOW to meditate“. I was an expert at B and C for many years using them both as an excuse to not ever get started. I am not an expert so “teaching” you how to mediate is not going to be my strong suit but I can share with you the first meditation I was able to sit through. If you haven’t heard of Bob Proctor, well – you have now! click this –>> link <<–to my first, favorite and indeed a tried and true meditation. After you try it out for yourself, let me know what you think! (and trust me, it gets easier and you will WANT to meditate)
- Spend time with your dog. If you aren’t a dog person, make it your cat. No animals to love and cuddle at all??? (hey, you might consider getting one) but if that is completely out of the question, no worries – there are plenty of animal videos to watch. (You will have to google those on your own. Youtube and Facebook are great starts! and you won’t be able to watch one without laughing, crying or feeling an intense amount of love) Why do I think this is important? My dog gives me unconditional love. No matter what kind of day I am having my dog will hug me, lick me and do anything for me. In my opinion, dogs in particular, will do anything to make us happy. We could all use more happy.
- Read a book. I LOVE to read and yet I spent years not doing it? Why? Simply put, I didn’t take the time. When you get to #8 you will understand this more but for now let’s discuss reading. I read several books at once. Sounds like it could potentially get confusing and I thought so too at first but let me explain. I am ALWAYS reading and re-reading a personal development book. I read this kind of book every single morning as part of my routine. (see rule #3) I highlight and underline things I want to go back and read later for reference and I do it over and over again with my favorite books. (My Favorite Books sounds like the next blog…for now, let’s go with whatever personal development book I am into at the moment as Book #1). I am in a book club, we meet weekly and read a book aloud together. This is also, to date, a personal development book. This is a new concept to me and something we just started and I am liking it! (book club book is book #2) and the other kind of book I recommend reading is a novel – any kind. I am personally drawn to a good murder mystery, loving a good “who done it”. The entire time I spend reading is me trying to figure out who the guilty party is. Therefore, yes, you guessed it (that is book #3)- I am always reading at least 3 books, at one time. Not only are you learning while you read, it also keeps your brain in top notch mode. There are hundreds, maybe thousands of articles on why reading is important, you get the gist. Read more. I found this blog with a simple google search on 10 Reasons why reading is so important. Your brain will thank me later.Photo by Kaboompics .com on Pexels.com
- Take a course and always be in at least one. All of the time. Invest in yourself. If you have a business, invest in that too. The kind of course I am talking about is the kind that costs money. Like even scary money sometimes. It’s an investment, in yourself. The best courses I have taken are the ones that cost more but the return in investment has been life changing. I am by no means advocating going into debt and doing something that you can’t afford but consider that if you take a course or start a coaching program and actually show up to do the work, that course will pay you back; usually its tenfold. I will be sharing my personal coach, courses and experiences in days to come.
- Work less. You read that right. Work less. I found myself working and working and working…..seriously though – probably 50-60 hours a week with little to no growth. We are taught to “work hard” to “earn more“; but at what expense? I feel a shift in the workforce as of recent where more of us are learning how to be more productive during a work day so that we can play more. That means getting a routine (and there is rule #3 again) into place to get more done in a day; therefore in the end you can indeed “play more“.
- Do something that scares you. I am not the first person to come up with this. You have read the quotes about stepping outside of your comfort zone? One of my favorites is: “A comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there“I am going to go out on a limb and say that you should probably do something that scares you daily. Don’t freak out, you gasped, I heard it. Start small. The twinge of fear that you get when you think of something you might want to do but the first thing you say is “I couldn’t possibly“…yep, you know it; no matter how big or small – take that first step and do it anyway. (I have the perfect example… this blog)
- Find JOY. I can’t express this enough. I want to shout it to the rooftops, over and over again! This sounds cliche but its true!!! When you find Joy in EVERYTHING, then EVERYTHING finds JOY. I give great thanks to the before mentioned author Brendon Burchard for the simplest of advice. Set a reminder several times a day to ask yourself how much joy is in your day. I have 3: the 1st reminder is at 10:00am (this is when I typically start my work day) “Are you bringing joy today, Mara? and How can you show up better?” My 2nd is at 2:00pm and reads “How can you bring more joy into the rest of your day?” and the 3rd and final Joy reminder at 6:00pm exclaims “STOP! Are you being joyful?!” My goal is to live every single moment of my life with joy and gratitude; it breeds more of the same.
There you have it! My 10 rules. Live it. Breathe it. Love your life.
I hope that you enjoyed my very first Graffiti Rules blog. Those rules aren’t so scary… it’s the sharing part, that’s scary. Make sure you subscribe to get updates, comment below what you thought and share the love. A good share will definitely bring me JOY!